Best appreciation

From my childhood, whatever I do I expect an appreciation, the same expectation continues at this stage also. But at some stages of my life I realize that expectation leads to problems, bigger expectation leads to more problems. So I thought that I shouldn’t expect anything from anyone, so decided to do my best in whatever work I have been given in all aspects. If I cook, I try for different recipes that mix the traditional taste and a different taste.

But as a Mom I started appreciating my son for all activities, whatever he does, my dialogue is always this “Super Sarvesh, kalakura da, fantastic”. This leads to problem for him because he started expecting the same from his dad and also from his friends, but after he realize that he is not getting that appreciation from all, he felt so depressed and sometimes he cries. Is that very difficult to change kids mind to accept the reality?

Slowly I realize my fault and give him a true feedback about his work. And also I expect the same from him. One day, Sarvesh asked me to draw some cartoon characters; I told him that I didn’t draw for so long time and you should not cry if I didn’t draw properly. He said ok and I started drawing Dora and Buji, toy story Jessi, horse, and chota bheem. He started giving feedback for each character I have drawn. He said that Dora picture is ok but not that good as the horse, and he said that horse picture looks really good than all the pictures. I felt like that I got a best appreciation, that I didn’t even got from my parents, teachers, friends and my husband.  After giving feedback he said, all pictures are good, but I asked him “you only said that only horse picture is good”. Then he told “if I say other pictures are not good, you might feel sad, that’s y I said that all pictures are good.

I felt like flying in the air, how sarvesh is thinking at this age. Everything makes me remember my character, even I also do the same, whenever I speak, I’m more cautious about others feeling. But at some point of time, it’s not possible to think about other feelings.

I’m not a best cook but I am trying to become a good cook only by sarvesh’ feedback. One day, i was trying to make a vanilla cake at home, whenever I thought of doing, some thoughts blocked me. What would I do if I didn’t make it properly? What will be the feedback? Will I compel Sarvesh or my husband to eat that, if it is not good? But finally I have decided to do a cake, after I finish it, Sarvesh told me that it looks great and smells good. He has even asked for more and said “it is yummy Mummy, I want more”

I felt like as if I got award from a great man. This is the best appreciation for me forever and I’m trying to get more appreciation from him.