First swimming class

 We have so confidently joined Sarvesh to swimming class but it’s very difficult to make him to listen to trainer. First day class, but we have to work hard for two days before the class to make him understand how the swimming class and what he should do and what he shouldn't do. “N” number of questions from him and “N” number of doubts from Sarvesh. Anyways we make him understand everything and finally we need to get the swimming suit for him. He was so happy about going to swimming class the next day, but a day before the class, we bought a swimming suit for him, once we got the swimming suit, he told us that he won’t go and if he goes also he will be scared to enter into the water and cry, he thought that the water will be too cold and never able to swim in that cold water.

I thought I am gone because Hari will scold me like anything because as we have paid one month fees in advance. I lost my confidence on sarvesh and I keep on telling him that the water will be warm and if you cry I won’t talk to you. I was telling that your friend Akshaya also coming to swimming class and she won’t cry for anything and she will listen and do whatever the trainer is telling , you also do the same whatever she does. Finally sarvesh told me that he won’t cry and he will listen what the trainer will be saying. With my finger crossed, I was waiting for that minute of first swimming class. I got up so early and class is at 9.15, everything got ready and Sarvesh’s friend Akshaya’s class started and she did a very good job, after seeing his friend, Sarvesh got some confidence and told me that he will never cry and listen to what the trainer will be saying.

That first minute of tension is at my face, Sarvesh entered into the swimming pool, and slowly the trainer asked him to pour water on his head with a cup. He was seeing me and not doing any activity that the trainer is teaching, I keep on telling him, “please Sarvesh do that, good very good, do , come on and you can do it and you will enjoy it” Finally he showed some interest and involved in the class and he never thought of seeing me and not so cautious about the water level. I saw that the trainer is giving Hifi to Sarvesh and saying that he is doing a good job. I was so happy about that and happy to hear from Sarvesh that he is so happy to go to swimming class every day. 

Best appreciation

From my childhood, whatever I do I expect an appreciation, the same expectation continues at this stage also. But at some stages of my life I realize that expectation leads to problems, bigger expectation leads to more problems. So I thought that I shouldn’t expect anything from anyone, so decided to do my best in whatever work I have been given in all aspects. If I cook, I try for different recipes that mix the traditional taste and a different taste.

But as a Mom I started appreciating my son for all activities, whatever he does, my dialogue is always this “Super Sarvesh, kalakura da, fantastic”. This leads to problem for him because he started expecting the same from his dad and also from his friends, but after he realize that he is not getting that appreciation from all, he felt so depressed and sometimes he cries. Is that very difficult to change kids mind to accept the reality?

Slowly I realize my fault and give him a true feedback about his work. And also I expect the same from him. One day, Sarvesh asked me to draw some cartoon characters; I told him that I didn’t draw for so long time and you should not cry if I didn’t draw properly. He said ok and I started drawing Dora and Buji, toy story Jessi, horse, and chota bheem. He started giving feedback for each character I have drawn. He said that Dora picture is ok but not that good as the horse, and he said that horse picture looks really good than all the pictures. I felt like that I got a best appreciation, that I didn’t even got from my parents, teachers, friends and my husband.  After giving feedback he said, all pictures are good, but I asked him “you only said that only horse picture is good”. Then he told “if I say other pictures are not good, you might feel sad, that’s y I said that all pictures are good.

I felt like flying in the air, how sarvesh is thinking at this age. Everything makes me remember my character, even I also do the same, whenever I speak, I’m more cautious about others feeling. But at some point of time, it’s not possible to think about other feelings.

I’m not a best cook but I am trying to become a good cook only by sarvesh’ feedback. One day, i was trying to make a vanilla cake at home, whenever I thought of doing, some thoughts blocked me. What would I do if I didn’t make it properly? What will be the feedback? Will I compel Sarvesh or my husband to eat that, if it is not good? But finally I have decided to do a cake, after I finish it, Sarvesh told me that it looks great and smells good. He has even asked for more and said “it is yummy Mummy, I want more”

I felt like as if I got award from a great man. This is the best appreciation for me forever and I’m trying to get more appreciation from him.